I am a very proud adoptive parent, infertility survivor and 3x Gestational Surrogate.
And this is my story…
My journey to motherhood began in 2002. I had never wanted to be anything else!
After a year of “trying” to conceive, it was time to make a call to my doctor. That call lead to 6 years of infertility appointments, procedures, drugs and IUIs.
Following another failed cycle I found myself angrier than I had ever been before. Angry at my body, I needed to be a mother, there was no plan B. Like a ton of bricks, it occurred to me, that I didn’t need to be pregnant, but I did need to be a mother. It was the most peaceful thought. I could feel the pressure being released in my body and my soul.
That thought propelled me down the path that brought me to my oldest daughter. I’ll never forget when I got the call. The voice on the other end said “I have a baby girl sitting on my lap who needs you” whenever I tell that story I always add that I was in the check out at the pet store and I have no idea if I paid for my items or left with them. I raced home to wash crib sheets and make sure the house was perfect. 5 hours later I was a mom to a gorgeous 13-month-old girl.
Shortly after my daughter came to me, I felt “off”. Mostly for a joke, I went and got a pregnancy test. I was floored to see two bright lines appear for the first time ever!
9 short weeks later I lost that pregnancy. At the time it was the cruellest thing to have ever happened to me. While part of my heart was shattered I was so grateful I had my daughter to care for.
5 months later I found out I was expecting again. I had conceived twice, naturally in less than a year, after more than 6 years of infertility.
I always tell my oldest she made me strong enough to become pregnant. She is magic to me.
In April 2009 I met my second daughter I was SO sure the whole pregnancy that she was a boy. Had a boy’s name, secretly had boy clothes and every time I walked past the nursery I would picture holding my son. Well! What a surprise when the doctor said “it’s a girl” my brain instantly went to how incredible this is going to be for my oldest daughter! Sisters! What could be better? The first time I saw her I knew she was going to be powerful. It was then I knew, if my body would, I had to help another women become a mother.
In 2010 I set out to find a couple who needed my help. In 2012 we welcomed their first child, thanks in part to my body. The same body that I was angry with for so many years! Not only had I built my family but I was helping others build theirs.
In 2014 I helped another woman become a mother, and in 2017 I helped make my first surrogate babe a big sister.
A few months after welcoming my third and last surrogate baby, the universe surprised me with another baby of my own. In 2018 I welcomed a baby boy. A baby I always dreamt about, never spoke about, and would have always wondered about. He is who I harvest my bravery from.
Over the last 15 years, I have become a very proud alternative family-building advocate. Sharing my story all around the world in the hopes of inspiring other people who can and are willing, to help make dreams come true.
It is an absolute honour to help support people pursuing an alternative path to parenthood.
I never gave up on my dream of having a family and I will never give up hope of helping you create yours.